Let’s Talk Wedding . . .

I’ve seen three people recently that have done this little q&a and I think it’s kinda neat so I wanted to participate also:

1. Are you married? If so when did you get married, and tell us about your special day. If not? How would you describe your dream wedding? 

I am married and I actually got married fairy recently. Well if you call 7 months ago recent, we got married on Feb 5, 2012. We had a relatively big wedding about 120 people and we held it at the Community building in the city where my parents live. The building had just been rebuilt, it’s beautiful and on a lake. I originally wanted the ceremony to be outside facing the lake, but my mom is the type to stress about things and I think every week leading up to the wedding I heard “If it’s this hot in February we’re moving it inside” or “If it’s this cold in February we’re moving it inside” or even “If it’s raining the week of the wedding we’re moving it inside.” Needless to say we ended up moving it inside and it wasn’t too cold, or too hot, or too rainy, it was perfect. My parent’s being the awesome parents that they are paid for pretty much everything except for the rehearsal which the hubs Dad took care of and the wedding favors which we did. The whole thing from start to finish was in a word PERFECT!!

2. Show us some wedding pictures. Either yours or of some that you love.

3. How about the engagement? Tell us your story. If not engaged, what’s yourdream proposal?

Our engagement story isn’t elaborate or amazing really. It’s quite simple and so are we so it was perfect for us. On our one year anniversary my hubs had planned a night our for us as the Turkish restaurant in the downtown area of the city I grew up in. It’s a quaint little historic area and the restaurant was on the lake front. I kinda had a feeling that he might be planning to ask this night but I wasn’t positive so I was just there to enjoy the night. We ate dinner and it was fabulous and then he wanted to go out and walk along the lake front but we couldn’t get from the back patio of the restaurant out to the water so we went out the front to the parking lot. We had gone to the car because I was gonna leave my purse there and change shoes to walk, but he was so nervous that he dropped to one knee right there and took out the beautiful ring and asked me. I of course said YES! He later told me he wanted to do a horse drawn carriage ride after dinner because we had done one previously downtown but apparently the guy who was doing them was no longer in business and it would have been too expensive to hire someone to come from somewhere else to do it. I appreciated the thought and while that would have been great as well I think it was perfect just the way it happened. 

4. Show us your wedding rings or an engagement photo! If not engaged/married … show us your “dream” ring.

5. Tell us why you think marriage doesn’t work out for so many? What can we do to make things last

I think some people just don’t take it serious enough they feel like it’s not a big deal and if it doesn’t work out there’s always a way out. I also think a lot of people get married for the wrong reasons either they settle because they’ve been together so long so it’s just the next logical step after 6 or more years. I have a few friends who got married after being in their relationships for 6 to even 8 years and all of them are divorced now. One of those marriages only lasted a year. I never understood how in 6 years you couldn’t figure out you were wrong for each other, but as soon as you get married it suddenly becomes clear that it’s not going to work. I still don’t get it and I’m hoping I never will because I think that as long as you are open, honest and willing to communicate and give a little a marriage can work. It’s never gonna be perfect and there will be arguments but you work through it and you keep trying and you never give up.